Virtual is not reality

Hi Love,

How are you doing? It seems unbelievable but now we are already finishing the first quarter of 2018. I am obviously still cannot get over how fast time is flying.

Being a stay-at-home-wife means that I have whole lot of time to spare for reading, thinking and just observing. It also means there are way too much time wasted on social media, more than I should be. So I tried to stop those crave for about a week when I had nightmare and my husband said ok lah can go on instagram to get my mind off it (alasan, obviously). I’m definitely still there but I am spending much less time. Switching the notification off and keeping only few inspiring important good people on highlight is definitely a good idea to keep minimal online period. But there is something about the social media that keep on luring you in.

 

how crazy the weather has been in past weeks

As for me, the social media is important to not only keeping me entertain, but I love it for all the inspo. Be it for fashion inspirations, about what to do, where to go, home design and just pretty things. Also most importantly, when your family and close friends are living miles away from you, it is nice to keep updated and update them of how life is, in fun pictures and almost live updates. I love that when I was back home the other day, they felt like we never left, simply because the updates are keeping us close. As if we are living in this life together, not miles apart.

Despite that, there is something really toxic about the social media especially instagram. Something that keep you scrolling and clicking like all days like it’s something real. There is something so vulnerable about exposing oneself to be judged by the audience, who might or might not like you. One who are watching and commenting about how you live your life. People who are preaching like they truly understands the struggles that people have in life and how much efforts they have put on. Those who think that they are always right even when others’ approach is not wrong either.

Truth is that I have been cutting my string to instagram on loose for few good reasons. One is because no matter what it is, there is no way you can please humans. Not that we ever have to please them anyway. But since I put my instagram on public, there are  crazy people hiding behind fake account who came by to leave bad comments. What hurts the most maybe when someone commented on how the way I dressed up is why I could not conceive. Like seriously, how could one say that?

May Allah gives us strength and patient in this life. Nobody is in greater power than Him and we be protected in this age of fitnah. 

It is saddening how some people just seems to miss the plot here. One should always keep in mind that the virtual life gives you space to share inspirations, a bit of happiness and also keep your memory in place. But it can never truly share how we are feeling or show the real struggles people are facing or what they have been doing for the rest of 24 hours they have. You may not see it but they are probably struggling so hard at work or at home or with health or even with faith. All of us are in different stage of life with different kind of blessings and struggles. So do not disgrace others when they cannot share same stage of life with you.  Plus, we are in no place to judge others anyway, so why do you?

There are always gonna be those days when things are just on our side. After a hard day, we went home and spent hours scrolling at other people’s happy faces, beautiful pictures, fun times. Remember that simply because nobody is sharing their bad pictures (and bad times), doesn’t mean that they do not have one. If they are happy, just be happy for them too. Their happiness is not making your life any worst off so don’t ruin your day and theirs, because of that.

Let’s start embracing the fact that nobody can have it all and what you have is best for you. He has made a promise that if we are grateful, we are going to get more. So be fully grateful with your own life, live happily within your means and insyaAllah goodness will come. It is okay if you cannot tick all boxes in life, that is not what life is anyway, don’t even keep any list of life. Enjoy every moment of life because every moments are precious. Stop caring about the outside way too much and don’t worry about people’s perception. Focus from the inside and let the glow shine your way. Keep purifying your heart and may it keep it clean from envious. Never think that you are better from anybody that you are entitled to talk bad about anyone in front or behind them. Do you think it is easy to mend hearts that you have broken?